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waitingman) wrote2008-06-19 10:06 pm
waitingman) wrote2008-06-19 10:06 pm
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~ to stuff going on within & without me.
From Chairman Fripp's recent 'bloggings:
Lying divorces who we are from what we are;
lying generates dis-integration;
lying weakens our Being
I've always considered myself a lousy liar, so have learned over time, trial & error (mostly error) to simply avoid doing it. As a Salesperson, it's an occupational necessity & occasional hazard, albeit a minor one of both & is therefore accepted by both vendor & buyer as part of the process (though I'm increasingly uncomfortable with that part of the job, so take my chances as the only honest salesman in this town...). As a person, especially as one with what seems to be the uncommon knack/curse of combining empathy with pragmatism, mendacity tends to deny, or cloud the very issue(s) one has to deal with in the first place... creating a second place, if you will, which means covering two realities ~ one of which doesn't really exist, but has been called into existence by fear of the actualities & consequences of the other.
Over the course of those years of trial & (mostly) error, it's become simply plain that: lying doesn't work; distortion of truth doesn't work & that the consequences & seemingly inevitable undoing of both can come from the most unlikely & unexpected sources, so it's ultimately impractical on more levels than can possibly be comfortable.
However, this doesn't mean that blatant honesty is an easier line to walk. It can be both interesting & frustrating to see how many people prefer being lied to than hear the truth... in so many situations.
I don't know if there's a moral to the story, but personally ~ mine would be : When Dogs are talking, be like a Basenji.
From Chairman Fripp's recent 'bloggings:
Lying divorces who we are from what we are;
lying generates dis-integration;
lying weakens our Being
I've always considered myself a lousy liar, so have learned over time, trial & error (mostly error) to simply avoid doing it. As a Salesperson, it's an occupational necessity & occasional hazard, albeit a minor one of both & is therefore accepted by both vendor & buyer as part of the process (though I'm increasingly uncomfortable with that part of the job, so take my chances as the only honest salesman in this town...). As a person, especially as one with what seems to be the uncommon knack/curse of combining empathy with pragmatism, mendacity tends to deny, or cloud the very issue(s) one has to deal with in the first place... creating a second place, if you will, which means covering two realities ~ one of which doesn't really exist, but has been called into existence by fear of the actualities & consequences of the other.
Over the course of those years of trial & (mostly) error, it's become simply plain that: lying doesn't work; distortion of truth doesn't work & that the consequences & seemingly inevitable undoing of both can come from the most unlikely & unexpected sources, so it's ultimately impractical on more levels than can possibly be comfortable.
However, this doesn't mean that blatant honesty is an easier line to walk. It can be both interesting & frustrating to see how many people prefer being lied to than hear the truth... in so many situations.
I don't know if there's a moral to the story, but personally ~ mine would be : When Dogs are talking, be like a Basenji.
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Personally, I'm always surprised to find someone who prefers being lied to. It makes me wonder just how fucked up they are and, frankly, diminishes my respect for them.
Luckily, I don't know many people like that. And the ones I did, I've had no compunction about divorcing myself from them.
Mind you, I'm not nearly as brutally honest as I used to be. :p
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Perhaps a better way of putting it would be to say there are people who won't believe the truth, despite it being obvious & in front of them & they'll go to strange lengths to avoid it... living a lie, as it were. And they're certainly not grateful to you for pointing it out.
I'm sure everyone does it to a degree, but I've encountered some 180 degree instances lately. "Divorcing myself from them" is a nice, appropriate way of describing the next steps.
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What, make a meowing-yodelling sort of noise, or a bloodcurdling shriek?? *grin*
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Works for me, every time.